Do you want to improve your intimate relationship? Learn how to be a better partner if you focus on the right things to succeed!
Everyone wants to build a strong relationship. In fact, if you’re having trouble in a relationship, you’re more likely to be unsatisfied with your life, even if everything else is going wonderfully.
If you’ve struggled with finding Mr. Right, or the boy of your dreams, you may be focused on the wrong things. So what, then, are the right things to focus on?
As much as I would love to give you a long list of what I think you need to focus on in order to have a better and strong relationship with that special man or woman in your life, I’m going to take a different approach. Although I have been married for 10 years and have never (that’s right, NEVER), had a fight with my husband. See also Are You Best Friends With Your Boyfriend or Husband?
We’ve had our challenges, yet we also had a plan on how to handle them. But I’ll save that conversation for another time.
What I want to give you is a strategy for figuring out what behaviors would be considered the best practices in building a strong relationship.
MUST-READ articles on the related topic:
- 5 Steps To Bring Back The Spark, Spice And Love In Your Relationship!
- The Numbers In Numerology Reveal Everything About Your Relationship
- Are You Expecting Too Much From Your Relationship?
I would rather teach you how to discover this by yourself. In this way you can use this strategy again and again, when you need to tweak something in a relationship. So let’s jump right into the strategy and find out how to build a strong relationship.
HOW TO BE A BETTER PARTNER
1. Start a Social Survey
When I was in my early twenties, I was several years away from meeting the guy I would marry. However, even though I didn’t know him yet, he was already very important to me.
I decided that if this man was going to be the man I spend the rest of my life with, I wanted to be the best wife for him that I could possibly be. So I decided that I needed to find out what men looked for in a potential girlfriend, wife, or partner. So I started a survey.
I began asking male friends and acquaintances this question:
“If you could design the ideal woman, what qualities would she have?”
I was actually surprised at how open and free the men I queried were in providing me with their preferences, as well as turn-offs and general insights. With this in mind I started a list and paid special attention to the common qualities that most men looked for.
So this is the first step for a strong relationship. Start your own personal survey by asking: “If you could design the ideal man/woman, what qualities would he/she have?”
2. Start a Personal Survey
When you have a general idea of the most common qualities that are considered very important, look at your list of qualities and ask yourself,
“Am I strong or weak in that quality?”
Go down the list and put a “+” (meaning strong) or “-” (meaning weak) next to each quality, according to your answer.
3. Start Improving Yourself
This step is crucial if you want to build a strong relationship. You have to Reorder the list with your weakest quality at the top, and your strongest quality at the bottom. Now, starting with the first quality, focus on improving that quality in yourself until you feel you’ve made meaningful progress. Then go to the next quality on the list.
For example, if “Listening” is your weakest quality, practice giving your mate your full attention when he or she is speaking. You might even want to consider doing research on good listening skills so you can target each skill when you practice.
As you make your way down the list, you’ll eventually reach the qualities that you rated as strong. Go through those the same way and see if you can even improve those qualities as well.
When you reach the end of your list, you can start over as many times as you like, until you’ve strengthened all the qualities on the list.
This is the exact process I went through when I decided to learn how to build a strong relationship and to improve myself for the benefit of my future husband.
But to be honest, I think there was an even greater benefit to me because going through this process improved all my relationships. Simply stated, it made me a better person.